Love|Sex

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If love does not know how to give and take without restrictions, it is not love, but a transaction that never fails to lay stress on a plus and a minus.

In the above quote, Emma Goldman might be referring to free sexual exchanges between lovers. One view is that at the time Goldman wrote “love” was often code for “sex.” However, the above quote uses the word “love” twice in a manner which to my mind is greater than and encircles “sex”. I think my view is supported by this other quote by Goldman from her writings in “Anarchism and Other Essays”:

Love, the strongest and deepest element in all life, the harbinger of hope, of joy, of ecstasy; love, the defier of all laws, of all conventions; love, the freest, the most powerful moulder of human destiny…

Sexual aggression, passivity and obsession require a subject and an object. The most expansive and resonant love is non-dual. There is no subject or object. The dualistic giving and the receiving is an exchange within a single self. My interpretation of the quote is that it refers to a romantic and sexual love between two adult people where there is no passive-active, top-bottom, subject-object, or even gender categories. Fundamentally, non-dual love is closer to the ONE SOURCE of all existence as all mental categories are merely superficial projections. True love is a kind of ego death — a return to what I call the Unified Field of infinite potential. It is the fear of ego death that often blocks the path to spiritual unity and enlightenment.

Ego games are fun to play and can lead to knowledge. But ego games are ultimately attenuating. Sometimes ego games are lethal to one’s physical and spiritual well-being. Most of the games we play in love relations are quite toxic to true unity and real connection. Games can be loving expressions. However, there are far more ways that games are used to divide and serve egotism than love. So one must be wise.

Sexuality (e.g., sexual-preferences and sexual-orientations) is often about playing games. Some of these games are programmed genetically by evolution. They are not chosen. But love is about expanding the ego beyond dualism and games to a resonant reciprocity where the egos of the lovers achieve non-dual awareness. Sex and love are both about building community. The first step to community building is the relation between two lovers. Initially it is dualistic. Sometimes these dualistic relations are characterised by power (superiority-inferiority complexes) and sexual games, but through the development of love the relation becomes non-dual and the two lovers become ONE resonant being. The ONE resonant being love relation supersedes all other games.

Resonance is really about reciprocity. Reciprocity is important in all aspects of reliable and amplifying love. Some lovers are amplified through giving their minds and bodies to their beloveds. These lovers will be frustrated by beloveds who block their giving. This lack of reciprocity will lead to disharmony and loss of resonance. There are other lovers who enjoy receiving but are egotistic and selfish. These lovers do not feel like giving back. These lovers will deplete a partner who gives. The depletion of the giver occurs faster when the giver has little or no connection to sources for receiving that do not rely on the selfish partner. Eventually, the lack of reciprocity will lead to disharmony, energy dissipation through redirection, and loss of resonance. Both dynamics can involve sex, but can easily manifest in many other aspects of the relation between lovers and beloveds.

A fully reciprocal give-and-take dynamic must be accessible to both adult lovers in a romantic and sexual union. This resonance is necessary in order to maximise the reliability and energy potential of the relation. When full resonance is accomplished through all seven chakras:

  1. body
  2. sex
  3. integration
  4. heart
  5. communication
  6. vision, and
  7. mind

no earthly institution can stand in the way of two individual souls so united. This resonant relation transcends even death of the physical body, because it has moved consciousness to a realm beyond the limiting logic of this physical Universe!

Getting to that point is very difficult. Many lovers choose to play games instead of entering into an ego dissolving relation. In the end, a choice has to be made by both participants between the non-dual experience offered by a fully resonant union and egotistic selfishness.

What does it mean to say that God is both Love and Evil?

For many, the biblical god is benevolent, but for more and more modern observers the same god is a monster. There are times in the biblical scripture when the god it describes, is revealed with an unapologetic and sincere clarity. Here are two such scriptures:

I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things.

— Isaiah, 45:7

Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it?

— Amos, 3:6

There is divinity in embracing total Love, and divinity in embracing total Evil. All is Oneness and the distinction (as all duality) is ultimately an imagination of the brain. Life is about making choices. Every day we must choose between food and poison. Food increases the entropy in the universe, but it also gives the body the freedom to make more choices. The Universe lovingly expands to accept the entropy of the body and the new choices that the body makes. Poison increases the local entropy in the body, but the freedom of the body to make further choices cease.

The path of life and pure Love is the one I choose. Being pure Love or pure Evil is not easy in society. Both can lead to one’s destruction. Jesus was pure Love and he was executed, but because he was Love he had the freedom to choose to live again. A path to pure Evil might lead to an even faster demise, and a permanent death with no choice for resurrection.

The unenlightened go through life being a mix of Love and Evil. In the Bible there is warning against lukewarm service to two masters.

So, because you are lukewarm — neither hot nor cold — I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

— Revelations, 3:16

The question comes down to who you are at your core. Life is about becoming a better person — whatever you determine “better” to mean. It could mean becoming a better hero or a better villain. It is my observation, that the hero is aligned with the overall universal movement towards greater space and more degrees of freedom (or increasing entropy); while villainy is aligned with local movements towards lesser degrees of freedom (or death). Love is large and encompassing; Evil is small and constricting.

So if you want to live a life where you maximize your freedoms and potential, choose Love. If you want to live a life where you limit your freedoms and potential, choose Evil. Whichever one you choose becomes your God.

Stephen Hawking on the risk of Advanced Alien Encounters with Earth

The idea that advanced super-intelligent aliens would want to eat earthlings or consume Earth is nonsense. Why would such an entity travel across huge distances for such a small meal? The energy needed to get to Earth from even the closest star-system would be on the order of the mass of Jupiter. Any entity that can harness energy on that scale, can do anything it wants really. I assume that any super-intelligence worthy of the name would be able to synthesize any tasty morsel it wanted. They would have access to vast and rich sources for raw materials and even water almost anywhere in the distances between their home star-system and our Solar System.

However, it is possible that a clumsy or lazy super-intelligence might bring lower-level parasites and other pesky hitchhikers that might be harmful to earthlings.

Stephen Hawking on Artificial Intelligence

Mr. Hawking is wrong. Autonomous Artificial Intelligence (AAI) is potentially dangerous but the alternative of relying on human intelligence is worse. I have observed that true intelligence is always more loving, more compassionate, more inclusive, and self-sacrificing. It is stupidity that is greedy, racist, anxious, and acts out of fear and panic. Read about Mr. Hawking’s statements on AAI here.

Is reality an illusion?

The word “illusion” implies misrepresentation, trickery, falsity, or deception. Existence is not trying to trick us. Existence just want to get back to the default zero state of balance and symmetry. It is consciousness that is running the scam. And what a delicious scam it is! Living beings resist the zero state so it can extract enjoyment out of what is essentially nothingness. To that end, we have derived the material Universe. And every moment of enjoyment, every sunrise, every sunset, every dream of love, and every sadness we can derive is a gift.

My Philosophy of Time

Time is the physical manifestation of counting. We describe time in terms of its mathematical properties. All mathematics are expressions in the counting layer. The counting layer is the propagation of particulars. The counting layer unfolds on top of Space.

Space is the physical manifestation of OR Logic together with AND Logic. This description is supported by the double-slit experiment. Space unfolds on top of a NONE Logic.

NONE Logic is the physical manifestation of (O)neness, which is another word for (N)othingness, which is another word for a pure and absolutely symmetrical (E)xistence. This description is supported by observations of vacuum energy and the cosmological constant.

Existence is a Signal that encompasses all Signals. Existence is Everything. It is the Alpha and the Omega.

Beings, having gained Consciousness, ask the question of Meaning. Existence provides the Signal which is the meaningful answer.

To receive, perceive, and understand the answer from Existence, Beings must be open to the Experience of the Signal. All experiences are Simulations which unfold above the counting layer. These simulations move from Illusion (or Imagination) to Reality and back again. In order for there to be experiences, there must be Time.

Consciousness

The Meaning of Life

Life grants living beings options. Those options are organized into values. Those values allow living beings to act intelligently (or unintelligibly) in the world. Intelligent action in the world gives living beings meaning.

Life → Options → Values → Intelligent Action → Meaning.